The Approval Inventory: Deeper Work
A guided mini workbook for understanding the approval patterns you learned, what they protect, where they still show up, and what choosing differently can look like now.
$7.00
Recognition is only the beginning.
You may already know you people-please, overperform, prove your worth, try to get everything right, or make yourself smaller to keep the peace.
But knowing what you do is different from understanding why you learned to do it, what it may still be protecting, and what happens when you try to choose differently.
The Approval Inventory: Deeper Work is a guided mini workbook that helps you move beyond noticing the pattern and begin understanding it.
Inside, you’ll explore the five Approval Patterns used throughout the workbook — Perform, Please, Prove, Perfect, and Shrink — and identify which response feels most familiar to you.
You’ll work through where that pattern may have come from, what it helped you protect, where it still shows up in your relationships and daily life, what happens when you resist the old rule, and what a more intentional response could look like now.
This is not about blaming your past or fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding yourself clearly enough to have more choice.
Inside the workbook:
How to identify your Approval Pattern
Perform, Please, Prove, Perfect, and Shrink explained
Guided reflection on where the old rule came from
What the pattern may be protecting
Where it still shows up now
What happens when you break the old rule
Choosing a more intentional response
A 7-day Notice, Name, Choose practice
Closing reflection pages
New to this conversation? The original Approval Inventory is a free one-page reflection connected to the post "10 Signs You Were Raised to Earn Love, Not Just Have It."
Read the post and download the free reflection first, then come back here when you’re ready to go deeper.