BEFORE WE RAISE OUR CHILDREN
WE RAISE OURSELVES
Heal the parent. Raise the child.
Shift the legacy.
Let's Raise These Kids is a space for real parents doing the inner work - so we can show up differently for the next generation.
LRTK helps us understand what shaped us, choose what changes, and raise our children with greater intention than we may have been given.
THIS IS PARENTING WORK—JUST ONE STEP EARLIER
The child isn't the only person growing here.
We bring more than love into parenting. We bring what we learned about being loved.
We bring the ways we learned to handle anger, affection, mistakes, boundaries, disappointment, conflict, achievement, and our own needs.
Some of it we want to keep. Some of it we don't even realize we're repeating.
LRTK gives us a place to notice the difference—without blaming where we came from or pretending we have to become perfect parents.
SEE + UNDERSTAND
What shaped me?
Recognize the patterns, beliefs, and protective ways of being that followed you into adulthood.
CHOOSE DIFFERENTLY
What do I want to do with what I know?
Make room for choices that aren't automatically dictated by what you've always done.
RAISE DIFFERENTLY
What can my child experience because I know this now?
Bring that awareness into the ordinary moments where parenting and change are actually happening.
THE RAISE FRAMEWORK
We don’t just break cycles.
We understand what built them.
The Raise Framework gives us a way to look at what shaped us, understand who we became around it, make more intentional choices, and consider what our children experience because of them.
01
Recognize
What am I finally seeing?
Notice the pattern, reaction, belief, or rule that has been operating in the background.
02
Acknowledge
What shaped this?
Understand where it came from, what it taught you, and what it may once have helped you protect, earn, or avoid.
03
Identify
Who did I become around it?
Name the role, rule, or protective version of yourself you learned to be.
05
Extend
What am I passing forward?
Carry the shift into what your child, relationships, home, and future experience from you.
04
Shift
What can I practice differently now?
Create room for a different choice, boundary, response, repair, or way of relating.
The Framework isn’t a finish line. It’s a way back to ourselves—and a way forward with our children.
current season
Season 01: Earned Love
What happens when love, approval, belonging, safety, or worth begins to feel like something we have to earn?
This season, we’re looking at the ways performing, pleasing, proving, achieving, fixing, and needing less can follow us into adulthood—and what becomes possible when we finally notice them.
DO THE WORK
Insight should have somewhere to go.
Reading something that sounds like your life can help you recognize a pattern. But recognition is only the beginning.
LRTK creates reflection tools, worksheets, inventories, prompts, and parenting practices that help you slow the conversation down, make it personal, and decide what you want to do with what you're seeing.
Because the goal isn't just to understand ourselves better. It's to let what we understand change the way we show up with our children.
REFLECT
Notice what's showing up.
Guided reflections and inventories that help you recognize the beliefs, patterns, and experiences underneath your reactions.
CHOOSE
Make room for something different.
Choice mirrors, prompts, and practices that help turn awareness into intentional action.
RAISE
Bring the work home.
Practical parenting tools that help translate what you're learning about yourself into what your child experiences from you.
Free and paid resources inside
I’m raising a child, too. And I’m raising myself along the way.
I built Let’s Raise These Kids from a question I kept coming back to: What if becoming a better parent isn’t only about learning what to do with our children—but understanding what happens inside of us while we’re raising them?
I’m not standing on the other side of this work telling parents how to get it right. I’m in it, too—recognizing what shaped me, questioning what I inherited, choosing what I want to keep, and deciding what I want my child to experience differently.
LRTK grew from that place.
A place where we can talk about the parent we became, the child we once were, and the children we’re raising now—without pretending any of us have finished becoming.
-Dannie, Founder
